Pain Sensitive Mom Shares Her Experience Deciding Between the Abortion Pill and SofTouch® Procedure

Pain and Privacy as Considerations for My Abortion 




Hi, so you just did a procedure about 20 minutes ago and how are you feeling?


Good, normal. Back to myself.

D: You’re going to leave here and go to work you said?

P: Yes, back to work

What is it like deciding between the Abortion Pill and the SofTouch® Procedure ?

D: You know we had an interesting experience because initially you thought you wanted to do the pill.

P: Yes.

D: Then we talked you through [taking] the pill, how to take the pill and then I came in and you were crying and [it seemed] you were overwhelmed by the idea of taking it.

P: Yes.

D: Tell me what happened?

P: I didn’t like the idea of having to take pain killers and possibly being woozy while I had to care for my children in the middle of the night. So that’s what freaked me out, doing it alone.

D: And your husband was out of town and you were afraid because your mother in law might be . . . ?

P: Right, I didn’t want anyone to know

D: So then I said “why don’t we just do the procedure?”

P: And I said “much better”.

D: So, we talked it through and you thought the SofTouch Procedure had advantages and you could just get it done.

P: Yes.

D: And you wouldn’t have to go through this at home with your kids and so we said okay let’s just do that. So how did it go?

P: Great. Seamless. It was perfect. It’s all done. I’m on my way, I could take aspirin if I want. But I don’t even have to, so I’m happy.


Why would you first consider the abortion pill before a surgical or nonsurgical abortion?

D: Initially, you seemed very clear that you wanted the pill. You were very, very clear.

P: Yes.

D: What made you think that that’s what you wanted to do? Did you read something or you heard something?

P: I had, I don’t know, an old fashioned termination 20 years ago, that was very involved, being knocked out, being unconscious. And that was not an option. Since then I never needed to worry about this because my husband and I thought we could control getting pregnant. Though it was never an issue for me, between 20 years ago and now, I had no need to know about terminating a pregnancy. Although, I heard that there was a pill, so for me because the old fashion way wasn’t an option, I thought the pill was the only other option.

D: I see.

P: So, I found out, I started getting suspicious Sunday, took a stick test and found out I was and started googling right away to deal with it Monday. Because we were both on the same page, so all I knew to do was google Abortion Pill. How to get it? I thought you could get it from your regular D, that’s not true.

D: So, you didn’t actually do a lot of research on how to take it?

P: Zero, nothing.

D: Nothing, you just looked for where to find it…

P: And how to get it done immediately

D: I think it’s a common thing that women think taking the pill is a little bit easier than it is. Because when you actually go through what’s involved, it is pretty involved. I’m a supporter of the pill, I prescribe it, I do it.

I was one of the original researchers of it.

So, I’m very comfortable with it and you were certainly in the right range to do it, you were very, very early.

I think it would’ve gone well for you but to me it is anxiety provoking because you are going home and you don’t know what to expect.

Especially in your situation where your husband’s not home, you got kids at home, you don’t know how it’s going to go… It’s just a hard thing to go through if you don’t have the support to do it, you know, so I think you made the right choice.

P: I did. Yes.

How does the SofTouch® Procedure compare with a surgical abortion?

D: You may not be aware of this but we’re one of the only places doing this procedure, almost everywhere else still does the one you experienced 20 years ago. People are flying in from around the world to get this done. But everyone’s still doing that old fashion way, now you wouldn’t want to do that again right compared to this?

P: No, I’d probably just have the baby.

D: It was that bad for you?

P: Yes, it was just too time consuming, and then I was living away at college so I was just dealing with it by myself which is fine but not with people at home… it’s not an option.

D: Alright, well thanks for taking a minute.  I just thought it would be helpful for other women in this situation to think, thinking through the pill vs the procedure, especially because a lot of women don’t understand the differences with this procedure and a surgical procedure. It’s pretty straightforward, it really took a couple of minutes correct?

P: It did, it was so fast.

D: And how was the pain?

P: It was tolerable. It was a little cramping on and off. It wasn’t constant, here come the cramps, and it’s gonna last stagnant for a while. It was like here a little stop, and a little bit more and a little break.

D: And you wouldn’t think that you would need to be put to sleep for this?

P: No, no, no, not at all and I had no, I can’t tolerate pain, that’s why I get a C-section, I don’t even labor

D: So if you can handle it, anybody can?

P: Yes

D: I’m glad this worked out and it seems clear this was the right choice for you.

P: Yes, absolutely.

D: Alright, thanks for taking the minute to do this.


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