Should I schedule an appointment?
If you have decided to end an early pregnancy or are not sure how far along you are, you are welcome to schedule an appointment. If you are unsure of your decision, you can schedule a consultation to just talk with one of our caring physicians. You are invited to bring your partner along with you at any time, men are always welcome at Early Options. During your visit to our office, you can meet our physicians and staff, and ask all of your questions. You will also get an ultrasound to accurately determine your dates, so that you know how long you have to make a decision.
I feel so conflicted. Shouldn’t I feel clear about my decision?
The decision is the hard part. Actually ending a pregnancy only takes a few minutes with our gentle SofTouch® method. Many women feel conflicted about their decision. This is normal. Being pregnant when it’s not planned can be a highly emotional time. While some women feel completely clear on their decision, conflicting feelings are extremely common. Hormonal changes can intensify the experience. Many women experience feeling one way one minute, and differently the next. It can sometimes be helpful to speak with someone who is not directly involved with the situation. We offer our undecided patients a one-on-one consultation with one of our caring physicians. We’re here to listen, NOT to pressure you. Schedule your consultation, and let us help you understand your early options.
How much does it cost?
The cost of the SofTouch® procedure or the Abortion Pill both fall in the middle of the average fees associated with terminating a pregnancy. It’s about $1200. This is much less than the cost of a surgical abortion, which is invasive and unnecessary for ending an early pregnancy. Plus, when you select SofTouch® or the Abortion Pill, you can feel confident knowing you’ll receive personalized care from our all-woman staff, and benefit from our Privacy in Practice philosophy. We’re also the only practice that welcomes a companion of your choice to be at your side during the procedure. These are priceless advantages that you won’t get at an abortion clinic.
I thought I would feel bad about ending my pregnancy, but I don’t. Is this o.k.?
Ending early pregnancy does not need to be traumatic. Many women are clear on their decision. Simply put, it’s not the right time to have a child. Morally, they are not opposed to ending a pregnancy before it’s developed. While nobody wants to be faced with this choice or to go through terminating a pregnancy, it also doesn’t have to be a terrible experience. In fact, Early Options was founded to provide only the gentlest procedures in a calming, supportive environment.
I’m so sad and I can’t stop crying. Is this normal?
It is normal to feel sad. It’s understandable, but you don’t need to second guess your decision. You can just be sad, and experience the sadness. Allow yourself to cry. Pregnancy hormones tend to intensify whatever feelings you’re having. It is important to remember that feeling sad doesn’t mean you must feel regret.
When you actually end the pregnancy, sometimes the sadness intensifies, sometimes the feelings last for a few days, and sometimes women feel immediate relief. If you find that the sadness lasts for more than a week or two, it is time to seek help. Sometimes these feelings are directly related to the abortion, and sometimes they can be a sign that there are other emotional issues that you need to talk about. We have non-judgmental therapists and helplines available if you need more help, just contact us.
I’m a mom already. I feel like I should have the resources to have another baby. Is it normal to feel guilty?
The majority of our patients are mothers. Because you already have another child or children, it doesn’t mean you’re ready or have the resources to have another one. Just the opposite – you know how much effort it takes to raise a child. You remember what it is like to feel excited about having a baby. Listen to your intuition if you are not feeling that way.
I don’t feel like I have a big enough reason to end the pregnancy, but I’m not happy. Can you help?
It is common not to feel like you have a “big” or “good enough” reason to end your pregnancy. Women end pregnancy for all kinds of reasons, but simply stated, it may just not be the right time. It’s alright not to want to have a baby – you don’t need a “special” reason. Ending pregnancy early, before it has a chance to develop, may help you to feel more at peace with your decision.
My partner and I feel so differently about the pregnancy. How do we make a decision?
It’s normal to feel differently than he does. He is not pregnant and doesn’t have to end the pregnancy. He doesn’t have to deal with the day-to-day reality of being pregnant and continuing a pregnancy. He doesn’t have the same hormones. Many men feel awkward and at a loss, and don’t know how to respond when you’re feeling so sad. They feel guilty. Let him know that he doesn’t need to feel the same way as you do.
Feel confident that the decision is yours to make. From that position, you can be more open in listening to him. Do you want to know his perspective? If you do, be prepared to listen, and ask him to be completely honest. This is an opportunity to get to know him better. You may or may not like what you are finding out about him. That’s ok. To listen to a patient interview, with a couple after completing our SofTouch® procedure, click here.
I’m feeling forced to make a decision I don’t want to make. How can you help?
If you are being forced or coerced, please come for a consultation and we will help you to make the right decision and get help. You are not alone, and sometimes talking with an objective professional can help your decision become clearer.